You can only judge on the consistent. The constant. That’s who a person is. I guess. That unalterable core. But you have to drill down on that one because actions look different based on whose telling the story. A kid being spanked sees a giant three times his size pinning him down and inflicting pain and he’s not exactly sure why because this is, in all likelihood, the first time he’s ever done the thing he shouldn’t do. A parent spanking a kid sees a decade without discipline and swallows the tears from inside his nose and throat as he slams a hand into the ass, and he’s mostly doing it because someone did it to him and that’s all he knows and, wow, this is a life he’s responsible for, so better go with what worked once.
And it’s fine if that’s one time and not if it’s 100. Which means every event is only understood in context of the larger world – but you also have to define that world. If you go with infinite then we basically can’t define when a thing started which means the whole thing is without meaning. We must have a fixed point in order to exist because we need something to measure by. And so the game becomes who sets the measurement.